Safety

Last updated October 12, 2026.

Anonymous messages are fun when people are honest and kind. This page explains the rules, what we do about people who break them, and the tools you have.

Anonymous doesn't mean anything goes

The person you message can't see who you are. That doesn't make it okay to hurt them. We remove content and block senders who break these rules, and we cooperate with valid legal requests.

Not allowed

• Bullying and harassment: repeated insults, humiliation, ganging up on someone, or trying to scare them.
• Hate and slurs: attacking anyone for their race, religion, gender, sexuality, disability or where they're from.
• Threats: threatening violence against anyone, including "jokes" that sound real.
• Self-harm encouragement: telling someone to hurt or kill themselves, including "kys".
• Sexual content: unwanted sexual messages, and anything sexual involving minors, ever. We report child sexual exploitation to the authorities.
• Private information: sharing someone's address, phone number, private photos or secrets meant to expose them.
• Scams and spam: phishing links, fake giveaways, or automated messages.
• Impersonation: pretending to be someone else to trick or hurt people.

What happens automatically

Messages that look like threats, slurs or self-harm insults are hidden behind a warning, so the person can choose not to read them. The filter catches a lot but not everything, and sometimes it hides something harmless. That's why you also have the tools below.

Your tools

• Delete: removes a message from your inbox for good.
• Report: sends a copy of the message to us for review and removes it from your inbox.
• Block: deletes that sender's messages and stops new ones from reaching you. Blocking works on the browser they used, so someone switching browsers or devices may show up as a new sender. Block them again if that happens.
• Pause your link: in Settings, stop all new messages without deleting anything.
• Delete your account: removes your link and every message straight away.

When we remove things

We may remove messages, block senders, or close links that break these rules or the terms, especially after a report. We don't read your inbox for fun. We look at reported messages and at activity that looks like abuse or spam.

If you're in danger or thinking about hurting yourself

Please talk to someone now. In the US, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). If someone is in immediate danger, call 911 or your local emergency number. Outside the US, findahelpline.com lists free, confidential helplines. A trusted adult, friend or school counselor can help too.

We can't respond to emergencies, and messages to us aren't monitored around the clock.

Contact

To report something serious or ask a question, email support@secretmessage.me. Include the link (secretmessage.me/…) and what happened. Never send us passwords.